Find out what's really going on in 30 seconds. An AI coach that sees the pattern in your arguments and gives you the words to break it.
Backed by 30 years of EFT research. Not therapy — coaching. First 500 get Loop free for 6 months.
What just happened
He shut down again when I asked about his mom. I tried to be gentle. He still went quiet for an hour.
Cycle detected
The pursuer–withdrawer cycle
You're not crazy — you're stuck in a loop you didn't make.
Try saying this
"When you go quiet I feel alone. I think you go quiet because you don't want to disappoint me. Is that close?"
69%
couples having the same fight 4 years later
$200
therapy session
30s
to name the pattern
The Problem
Gottman's lab found that 4 years later, 69% of couples are still having the exact same argument — in exactly the same way. Not because they're broken. Because no one ever named the loop they're stuck in.
“Why do we keep ending up here?”
couples therapy notes
“The only thing more exhausting than fighting is realizing it's the same fight every time.”
Empathi.com
“It's not just that he never does the laundry — it's that I feel I can't trust him.”
Psychology Today
How It Works
Tell Loop what just happened in one sentence. It identifies the cycle (pursuer-withdrawer, parent-child, find-the-bad-guy), explains what's underneath it for both of you, and gives you the exact sentence to say next.
One text input. 'What just happened?' Loop maps it to one of 7 known couple-conflict cycles backed by 30 years of EFT research.
Loop never picks a side. Every cycle comes with a sentence to say next that opens the conversation back up.
After 3 fights, Loop shows you which cycle you've been stuck in — and how often the same trigger sets it off.
Real Couples, Real Words
“I shut down during arguments and my partner thinks I don't care.”
“We need therapy but can't afford $400/month.”
“Paired and Lasting are quiz games. They don't help when we're actually fighting.”
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